Archive for March, 2016

“One should not pursue goals that are easily achieved.” – Albert Einstein

Wednesday, March 30th, 2016

[T]raveling will certainly make you more worldly, force you to think in different ways and help you to embrace unique cultural practices. All of which will ultimately create more neurological connections in your brain, making you quicker to react, think through logic and work through problem solving more efficiently.

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You’re only as smart as your experience, and if you don’t challenge yourself past your comfort zone — you’re setting limits on your potential that need not be there. Both new experiences and doing things you already know — the hard way — will keep your cognitive skills sharp.

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The Best Time Of Day To Exercise, Study, Eat, And Sleep

Friday, March 25th, 2016

We evolved to have a biological clock to help our bodies adapt to Earth’s daily cycles and research suggests that nearly every organ in our bodies follows this hidden, biological timekeeping: Our hearts, livers and digestive tracts all have their own internal schedules to help us perform at our very best.

It seems that we need regular sleeping and eating schedules to keep our organs synced to one big, biological clock

Our bodies have an optimal time to sleep, but also to eat, think and exercise. What’s more, disrupting that natural timing could lead to certain health problems, such as obesity, diabetes, and even Alzheimer’s.

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Focusing on positive fantasies now may bring depression later

Sunday, March 20th, 2016

Surprising new research suggests that indulging in upbeat fantasies may exacerbate symptoms of depression in the long run, even if it gives a boost to one’s mood in the here and now.

“It’s not that positive thinking is bad, or that negative thinking is good,” said Gabriele Oettingen, a psychology professor at New York University and one of the scientists behind the research. “The idea is that we need to use positive thinking and fantasies in a way that is appropriate for what we want to use it for.”

If your intent is to reach a goal that you associate with feeling happier or more fulfilled, Oettingen said, it’s important to leaven your positive fantasies with realistic thinking about obstacles that stand between you and that goal.

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Marriage Advice You Haven’t Heard A Million Times Before

Tuesday, March 15th, 2016

Some pieces of marriage advice we’ve heard time and time again: Never go to bed angry, make sure your spouse is your best friend, be transparent about your feelings.

But at this point, we’re ready for a fresh, unconventional take on how to stave off divorce. Below, relationship experts share six surprising pieces of advice.

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The Real Reason You Get Sick After A Stressful Period Has Ended

Wednesday, March 9th, 2016

You can do this by pacing yourself when you’re under pressure, getting plenty of exercise and sleep, eating healthfully and taking time to decompress on a regular basis (with meditation, rhythmic breathing or other relaxation techniques), says Dr. Nieca Goldberg, medical director of the Joan H. Tisch Center for Women’s Health at the NYU Langone Medical Center. “During a stressful period, have a plan that calls for breaks as you go through it” so that you’re not revved up 24/7. Indeed, the body’s “fight-or-flight response can be deactivated quite effectively through diaphragmatic breathing and guided visual imagery,” Buse says. “Someone who has high levels of stress at work could simply take 30 seconds to focus on their breath between meetings and appointments and try to avoid the build-up of stress that could happen over the course of a day.”

If it’s too late for a pre-emptive approach, you can mitigate the let-down effect by helping your body de-stress slowly. “Just like you have a cool-down period after exercising, you want your body to have a tapering down of stress,” Schoen explains. The key, he says, is “to keep your body slightly revved up to keep your immune system from downshifting abruptly” when the stress ends.

The best way to do this, Schoen says, is to seek the right intensity of physical and mental stimulation. For physical stimulation, “moderate exercise in quick bursts – such as jogging or walking stairs for five or six minutes at a time, several times a day – can help,” Schoen says. For mental stimulation, do challenging math problems, crossword puzzles or computer games, or play chess under time pressure for 30 to 60 minutes at a time, he suggests. Do these activities for three days after a stressful period – “that’s the critical window,” Schoen says – and you’ll improve your odds of emerging from the aftermath of stress feeling good, not sick.

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12 Things Single People Hear All The Time (That Married People Don’t)

Friday, March 4th, 2016

Being in a relationship shields you from a lot of unsolicited advice. Unfortunately, when you’re newly single or divorced, everyone and their mother seems to have something to say about your personal life.

It can all be a bit much. Below, HuffPost bloggers and readers share the most unwanted pieces of “advice” they’ve heard post-split.

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Thomas Ramey Watson is an affiliate faculty member of Regis University's College of Professional Studies. He has served as an Episcopal chaplain (lay), trained as a psychotherapist, done postdoctoral work at Cambridge University, and was named a Research Fellow at Yale University.

In addition to his scholarly writings, he is a published author of poetry and fiction.

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