Archive for June, 2015

13 Things to Never Say to People Who Suffer From Chronic Pain

Tuesday, June 30th, 2015


Chronic pain is something I’ve lived for years, chronic headaches, chronic hip pains and related chronic back pain, chronic neck aches and chronic muscle pain… not to mention the emotional pain that came with it.

I’ve healed from my non-stop, 24/7 chronic headaches and running happily without chronic hip pains again.

I am grateful for every pain-free moment. I am happy for my healing. I also don’t take it for granted.

I understand others who are struggling with chronic pain right now. While I believe healing is possible for just about any condition, I know that in some cases it can take decades of trial and error and for some healing may not arrive this lifetime. The hope is out there. Healing is a journey. Personal and spiritual growth happens even if the pain doesn’t disappear just yet.

Still, living with chronic pain is difficult. I felt misunderstood, lost and lonely — often hopeless. During my many years with chronic pain I’ve heard many comments from friends, family and strangers. While I know most of these comments came with good intentions from kindness, the truth is many of these comments were hurtful, annoying, unhelpful and even inappropriate.


The 4 Big Mistakes Men Consistently Make In Their Relationships

Saturday, June 27th, 2015

Pamela Madsen writes:

As a relationship and sex coach, I watch men blow relationships even when they actually love and desire their woman.

How can we really want to be in relationship and yet make a mess of it?


Susan Stanton Rotman on “Discernment, Imagination & Coming of Age”

Wednesday, June 24th, 2015

From her blog:

“Learning to trust the imagination is based upon using it and finding out how it can help you…Literal-mindedness will not help you here. Engage with the metaphor, the image, the feeling, the inkling that is just within your grasp. Use your subtle senses, not your everyday senses. Follow the story or scenario that’s unfolding within you. If an understanding forms in your mind, or a sense grips your body, follow its meaning without shouting it down with your disbelief. You and your senses are a valid source of wisdom. You don’t need to depend on experts to trust and validate your understanding.” (Quoting Caitlin Matthews, Psychic Protection, Ulysses Press, 2006, p.41.)

We each work with multiple senses to access and interpret information, including both our rational, linear abilities, and also including our non-rational, non-mental faculties. Our own imaginal realms are invaluable sources of information beyond language, and a gateway to insight, or what I call inner sight. Just as dreams can often contain important insight, so too your imagination offers you understanding, discovery, motivation, creativity and direction.


Get Off The Computer And Complete This Italian Teacher’s Summer Assignment. You Won’t Regret It.

Saturday, June 20th, 2015

A summer homework list assigned by Cesare Catà of Don Bosco High School in Fermo, a small town on the Adriatic Sea in northeastern Italy, is currently going viral across that country.

Instead of giving his students required reading assignments, Catà gave them a prescription for how to live an inspired life, telling them that in the next few months, they should take time to admire a sunrise, dream about the future and read, because reading is “the best form of rebellion you have.”

The Huffington Post interviewed Catà, who said he models his teaching methods on Mr. Keating, Robin Williams’ character in the 1989 film “Dead Poets Society.” “Surely a pupil could consider literature, philosophy or grammar as instruments to become himself,” Catà told HuffPost in an email. “I think that the radiance of summer, especially during adolescence, could have a special spiritual influence.”

More. Wonderful advice.

This Beautiful Tribute To A Dog And His Man Will Have You In Tears

Sunday, June 14th, 2015

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Sleep Could Help Stave Off Alzheimer’s And Memory Loss

Saturday, June 6th, 2015

Scientists researching the potential connections between deep, restorative sleep and the protein fragment beta-amyloid recently found that poor sleep not only hinders the brain’s ability to save new memories, but also creates a channel through which this Alzheimer’s-triggering protein is able to travel and attack long-term memory storage.

“Over the past few years, the links between sleep, beta-amyloid, memory, and Alzheimer’s disease have been growing stronger,” William Jagust, a UC Berkeley neuroscientist, Alzheimer’s disease expert and co-leader of the study said in a statement. “Our study shows that this beta-amyloid deposition may lead to a vicious cycle in which sleep is further disturbed and memory impaire


Previous research has implicated the deposits of beta-amyloid in the development of Alzheimer’s disease, because it begins destroying synapses before clumping them into plaques in the brain that lead to the death of important nerve cells. But this new study suggests that, while poor sleep creates the pathway for this nerve damage to occur, it is an entirely treatable issue. According to Matthew Walker, a UC Berkeley neuroscience professor and senior author of this study, exercise, behavioral therapy and electrical stimulation of brain waves during sleep are all viable ways for young adults to increase their overnight memory — and protect against the build-up of beta-amyloid proteins.

“Sleep is helping wash away toxic proteins at night, preventing them from building up and from potentially destroying brain cells,” Walker said in a statement. “It’s providing a power cleanse for the brain.”


Why Daydreams Are the Best Creative Tool for Your Reinvention Process

Wednesday, June 3rd, 2015

Creative people are often accused of doing nothing. What people who make such remarks do not understand is that often when we are taking time out, being quiet, meditative, and so on, we really are working. We’re mulling ideas, working on our current projects–and hatching new ones.

The following article is about that–and about the importance of daydreaming, not just for the creative but for all:

Some people feel daydreaming is all about wasting time, zoning out, or simply not wanting to be present for whatever is happening in the now. But that’s not necessarily the case.

Research shows that more than one third of our waking hours is spent daydreaming. One in three! And when MRI scans are performed on people when they are daydreaming, the results show a very active and very dynamic brain function, which has to mean that daydreaming serves some vitally important function, right?

People who daydream demonstrate more creativity. And when you learn to daydream in a controlled way, these mental wanderings can cause you to be much more prolific and productive in all that you take on.

Daydreams have benefits. And with a little focus, you can turn them into a creative task that will help you get more done and be more inventive with everything you do.


Thomas Ramey Watson is an affiliate faculty member of Regis University's College of Professional Studies. He has served as an Episcopal chaplain (lay), trained as a psychotherapist, done postdoctoral work at Cambridge University, and was named a Research Fellow at Yale University.

In addition to his scholarly writings, he is a published author of poetry and fiction.